Saturday, July 24, 2010

Question of the Month: July

Can you forgive and not forget? Or forget and not forgive?

17 comments:

Appu said...

forgive And forget if tried is easy.
But whats the point to forget And not forgive. But in-short memories stay forever. Only time heals And faded with time.

Madhuri said...

I can forgive but never forget. I did blog on the very same question some time back.

http://connectingthought.blogspot.com/2010/04/forgiveness-to-me.html

mithunkotian said...

Either. But not both.

http://mithunkotian.wordpress.com/2009/12/13/forgive-and-forget/

Anonymous said...

Forgive and not forget, most definitely! If someone breaks your trust once its their fault, twice and its yours.

ramblingsbybones said...

It's hard to forget something serious but for your piece of mind, I think it's better to at least forgive...

Patricia Torres said...

I try often to do both.. forgive & forget.. the forgive part is soooooooooooooooo easy to do!! But the forget.. oh gosh!!! thats a bit hard... but I try.. try.. and try!!

How do we know said...

yes. to both.

D said...

@Appu: You forget because you can't forgive. And remembering that hurts.

@Madhuri: Yes, I think so too, but they say if you don't forget, you haven't forgiven...

@Mithun. Either of what?

@Anon: Sounds logical - to remember because you don't have to be hurt again.

@Bones: But that's also true for the other option - to forget for your piece of mind even if you can't forgive. No?

@Pat: You're right. Forgetting is so difficult!

Ze2red said...

both are doable. and i guess every single person has passed through that in life. The question is are you strong enough to do either one of them all the time? will you hesitate?

http://ze2red.blogspot.com/2010/01/forgiveness.html

Suku said...

forgive but not forget...i am true leo!

Dil se said...

Neither of them actually !! I don't take an offense from people easilt but when I do, I just can't forgive them or forget it.
I know it's not the way of life but that's just the way I am.

Indian Home Maker said...

Forgiven but not really able to forget.. but not thinking about it all the time either so kind of a faded memory.

D said...

@Ze2red: I don't know if you even need to do the same thing in all situations. Sometimes, you need to forget, sometimes you need to forgive. And sometimes you can do both.

@Suku: Is that a Leonine characteristic?

@Dil Se: Ah! That's a tough one. I mean, it works both ways - how nice that you don't take offence easily and how hard that you can't forgive or forget easily either!

@IHM: Time must be a healer here as well.

GettingThereNow said...

I forgive, but never forget :) I believe in "Hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice (or more) shame on me!" :D

GettingThereNow said...

Forgive, but can't forget :)

Soulmate said...

I can forgive but not forget.. Its just so that next time I am careful of that person...

Ravichandra C said...

so u r telling
If u forgive dont forget &
if u forget dont forgive or
either forgive or forget but not both!

Did i read u well?

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